Your Choices And Other People’s Behaviour

Should you be bad when other people are bad?  Must the behaviour of other people also affect your own behaviour? When we start the journey towards taking off our masks and becoming the person we truly are, we are often confronted with situations that seem to test just that – who we are. It's so tempting to be bad in the midst of bad people. To apply tooth for a tooth, and eye for an eye! We think within us that bad people don't deserve good treatment anyway, why give it to them? But there came a time when I felt that taking revenge, holding a grudge, and "being bad" in return for the bad things done to me does just that – continue to make me feel bad.

It doesn't feel good trying to hurt other people, even if those people have hurt you so much already. I wanted to be released from all the negativities I have imbibed. I just wanted to be healed, and holding a grudge certainly doesn't help in one's healing process. I realized then that the behaviour of other people doesn't necessarily have to affect me, or to change who I am. If I wanted to find healing and strive for happiness, no person should ever be able to hinder me from doing so. No person should have that kind of power over me. It's a difficult process just to be able to take off your mask and face yourself, don't let other people dictate the kind of person you should become.

How to Achieve self power

1. Don’t be afraid to approach prominent people. Ask them about their success. Listen carefully to their answers, write them down for future reference and application in your own life.

2. Use motivators to help you succeed. Here are some examples:

POSITIVE THINKING
VISUALIZATION
AFFIRMATIVE REPETITION
DYNAMIC FIRST IMPRESSIONS

3. First impressions are important. You are your own “best” or “worst” walking advertisement. Create an effective “hello”. Dress up your image so that others are impressed by you.

4. Select a hero or role model and emulate his or her outstanding attributes. Picture in your mind’s eye the strength of character and leadership qualities of your selected role model, then picture yourself as one possessing these desirable traits.